He likes me… He likes me not. He seems to care, but then again his actions cause me to despair. I wish to be loved, but is it worth all the pain? I don’t see any gain. In fact, is he the one? Or have I just gone about it the wrong way? Has Shaytan really messed with my head, and led me astray?
Allah ; Al-Mussawir, the One who fashioned us, has warned us with regards to His own creation, warning that they will speak for us or against us on that terrible day. And as we analyse our communities it’s evident that almost every sin we commit, mistake we make and internal conflict we go through leads back to our interaction with the opposite gender, regardless of our maturity or level of eman.
History has immortalised examples we can learn from and one is; when the son of Adam Qabil committed a crime; murder, it was due to being envious over his brother’s fiancée. It didn’t happen all of sudden, rather those silent arguments with himself caused him to prepare a plan which lead to his own demise. Then we have a companion of the Messenger of Allah Al-Ghamidiyyah (radiAllahu ‘anha) who fell into zina with another Sahabi. Unimaginable and painful, isn’t it?! It was due to an uncontrolled desire; it is through her pain we learnt a powerful lesson, we will go through grief if we allow our interact to go awol.
We wake up to reality as we witness certain incidents unfold. The young girl whose whole demeanour is controlled by how she wants to be perceived by guys and the attention she craves. As time goes by, she grows up, matures and then wishes she protected herself, scarred by her past, both physically and emotionally.
You then have the practising sister who just wants to get married to a nice guy, however in this haste, they go about it the wrong way. And when things don’t go to plan, the attachment causes her to reflect, repent and regret.
It doesn’t have to be like this. It doesn’t have to be so hard. In fact, it’s as easy as you make it And yeah, you can live happily ever after!
In this workshop Sr. Alima will cover many topics which relate to you…
Session 1: Shaytan: Understanding an unprecedented Psychopath
Session 2: Mind your surroundings: What’s love got to do with it?
Session 3: Protect Your self: Attachment, detachment!
Session 4: The Next Level: What’s Jannah worth?
Join us for a different perspective, and change your perspective on love, and learn lessons and tips to protect yourself.
It’s worth the time, it’s worth the attendance! And oh yeah, it’s fun, engaging and beneficial!
On 6 October 2012, 4pm – 6pm @ Islam Hounslow, London.
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